Sometimes we are in situations in life where we are rejected and hurt by people when we try to bond with them. The question that comes in our mind is, “What do I have to do to get you to love me?
We make all kinds of decisions, some bad or good, some immoral or not, to get people to love us. We spend years in emotional pain over the rejection of love from others, sometimes violent rejection of love from others. We spend years in emotional pain from the horrific hurt put to us by others which affects our emotional outlook on life.
During this time, God is not the culprit of our hurt as we might think of it as it is in the Book of Job. It is Satan (Isaiah 14). All during this time God’s voice is knocking on our door, in His still, small voice to intervene, to give us hope, i.e., to give us patience, endurance, in maturing our character, i.e., Romans 5:1-5, Amplified Bible, quote, 1 Therefore, since we have been justified [that is, acquitted of sin, declared blameless before God] by faith, [let us grasp the fact that] we have peace with God [and the joy of reconciliation with Him] through our Lord Jesus Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed). 2 Through Him we also have access by faith into this [remarkable state of] grace in which we [firmly and safely and securely] stand. Let us rejoice in our hope and the confident assurance of [experiencing and enjoying] the glory of [our great] God [the manifestation of His excellence and power]. 3 And not only this, but [with joy] let us exult in our sufferings and rejoice in our hardships, knowing that hardship (distress, pressure, trouble) produces patient endurance; 4 and endurance, proven character (spiritual maturity); and proven character, hope and confident assurance [of eternal salvation]. 5 Such hope [in God’s promises] never disappoints us, because God’s love has been abundantly poured out within our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.
God does the impossible or what we think could not logically happen, i.e., Mark 10:27, KJV, quote, And Jesus looking upon them saith, With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible. God makes our crooked paths or impossible situations straight, i.e., Isaiah 42:16, KJV, and then the Amplified Bible, quote, And I will bring the blind by a way that they knew not; I will lead them in paths that they have not known: I will make darkness light before them, and crooked things straight. These things will I do unto them, and not forsake them. (KJV). “I will lead the blind by a way they do not know; I will guide them in paths that they do not know. I will make darkness into light before them and rugged places into plains. These things I will do [for them], and I will not leave them abandoned or undone.” (Amplified Bible).
That’s how powerful God is!
So what do we do with people who reject us?
We do the opposite of what our human instinct would do. Our human instinct tells us to hurt that person who hurts us, to strike back and feel satisfied in doing that action of hurt. However, our God, who does the impossible, instructs us in His word by our doing the following in Romans 12:9-21, Amplified Bible, quote, 9 Love is to be sincere and active [the real thing–without guile and hypocrisy]. Hate what is evil [detest all ungodliness, do not tolerate wickedness]; hold on tightly to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another with [authentic] brotherly affection [as members of one family], give preference to one another in honor; 11 never lagging behind in diligence; aglow in the Spirit, enthusiastically serving the Lord; 12 constantly rejoicing in hope [because of our confidence in Christ], steadfast and patient in distress, devoted to prayer [continually seeking wisdom, guidance, and strength], 13 contributing to the needs of God’s people, pursuing [the practice of] hospitality. 14 Bless those who persecute you [who cause you harm or hardship]; bless and do not curse [them]. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice [sharing others’ joy], and weep with those who weep [sharing others’ grief]. 16 Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty [conceited, self-important, exclusive], but associate with humble people [those with a realistic self-view]. Do not overestimate yourself. 17 Never repay anyone evil for evil. Take thought for what is right and gracious and proper in the sight of everyone. 18 If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for God’s wrath [and His judicial righteousness]; for it is written [in Scripture], “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. 20 But if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for by doing this you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome and conquered by evil, but overcome evil with good.
What do I have to do to get you (people) to love me? Because God loved me first there is nothing I have to do at all to get Him to love me. God is love, i.e., 1 John 4:8-21, KJV, quote, 8 He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 9 In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. 10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. 12 No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and his love is perfected in us. 13 Hereby know we that we dwell in him, and he in us, because he hath given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and do testify that the Father sent the Son to be the Saviour of the world. 15 Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God dwelleth in him, and he in God. 16 And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him. 17 Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world. 18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. 19 We love him, because he first loved us. 20 If a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen? 21 And this commandment have we from him, That he who loveth God love his brother also.
Since God can do the impossible, He can change your rejected love situation around so that you are healed of your hurt, not to hurt anyone else, not anyone! Continue to pray positively for God to do the impossible in your life, to ask God to have those who have hurt and rejected you, asking God to turn your, and their, situation around to the positive outcome. Have endurance, be patient to wait for the positive outcome. Believe and have faith that God can do the impossible, and He can!
God Bless You All!
Brenda A. McGee has attended New York Theological Seminary in New York, NY, and Fuller Theological Seminary in Pasadena, CA as a Master of Divinity student.
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